Charisma
For the ENFJ, having an ideal to fight for is the true meaning of life. He believes that finding his purpose in the whole scheme of things is more important than material possessions. Due to their extroversion, idealism, and charisma, many ENFJs become politicians, social workers, humanitarians, artists, coaches, or teachers so that they may reach out to others and spread some goodness in the world.

Strive to find balance
What is most interesting about the ENFJ personality is that he finds pleasure in the company of other people, but he also yearns for time alone. This is due to his extroverted personality and his intuitive character. An ENFJ should strive to find a balance between the two – to find enough time to reflect on things in his life, but also have time for other people. When the ENFJ spends too much time alone, he has a tendency to feel depressed. When he spends too much time with others, he tends to feel overwhelmed and unable to process everything that has been on his mind. He needs to be able to find time for himself and time for others.

Tendency to seek approval
An ENFJ must be aware that he has a tendency to seek the approval of other people too much. He needs to feel that others think highly of him, and that they feel that he is as much of a good person as he is trying to be. Unfortunately, what others think of him takes precedence over what he feels and thinks about himself. If others seemingly don’t like him or approve of him, he has a tendency to put himself down, which can develop into low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. The ENFJ personality has to be aware of this – since no matter how good a person he is, it won’t matter in the end if he doesn’t believe it himself.