Externally focused, the ESFJ personality type is more concerned with outward appearances than internal conflicts. Rather than pondering on politics and existentialism, they are more interested in gossip, fashion, beauty, and maintaining their social status. While that can seem superficial, they try their utmost to use their social status and appearance for good and the well-being of other people.

Trap
Being the true altruists that they are, ESFJs try to always do the right thing. The right thing for ESFJs, however, is based on what tradition and communal morality dictate. ESFJs don’t base their choices on what could be deemed as philosophically true; rather, they believe that whatever authority figures say is the absolute truth. Because of their black-and-white view of the world, ESFJs can fall into the trap of closing themselves off from other people of different beliefs and backgrounds simply because other individuals’ perceptions are not the same as theirs. Knowing this, ESFJs should realize that “different” does not mean “wrong,” and that other people’s views should not be shunned simply because they are not the same as theirs.

Role models
Their love for people and socialization naturally places ESFJs in positions of power. They love being seen as role models. ESFJs thrive in leadership roles as long as their genuine need to serve is appreciated by those in their care. People with the ESFJ personality type have to be cautious not to feel hurt or rejected should they feel like their ideas aren’t listened to or their need to socialize is not reciprocated. While other people may hesitate to take on the role of “Queen Bee” or “Prom King,” ESFJs take on these roles with much gusto, especially since they put deep importance in hierarchy, stability, and order. ESFJs do their utmost to make sure that the pecking order of their group persists, especially if they are leaders of their groups.

Sensitivity is the greatest obstacle for an ESFJ to overcome. In order to fully live out their roles in whatever group they belong to, ESFJs should focus on being the best role models they can be, and understand that while not everyone may agree with them, the members of their group appreciate all their efforts.